Okay women of the dating site world let me drop some knowledge on you. Sit back, and buckle up.
If you are shallow, admit it first to yourself, then to the world. Guys are not afraid to say what they want physically in a woman. Women should not be afraid to do the same.
Say it with me “looks matter.” If you are going to write up a profile all about how you want some intelligent, sensitive guy with a great sense of humor, then not mention what you want looks wise, you are going to have many guys angry that they spent time sending you witty messages just to be ignored. Girls always groan and complain as if so jaded, but they are blind to the fact that they are hypocrites. Chances are, most of the girls saying they want all these wonderful internal qualities in a man, probably end up with a man like The Situation from “Jersey Shore”. Men notice such things when out in public. Not just the losers either. The hot guys, though they get girls, notice that the girls are as shallow a sex as them. Thus they feel no remorse when they play a girl.
On a side note, if you are going to say you are just looking for friends, then discard the “looks matter” I mentioned above and either stop judging “friends” by their looks or admit to yourself you are not looking for friends, but rather looking for a relationship or booty call.
You want a man who will accept your kids. We get that. You are making a profile about yourself though. Guys are looking to date you. They are not looking to date your children. They want to get to know more about you first to know if they want to date you. They are not going to say, “hey, this woman really loves her kids, and she has given so much information on them I think I want to meet them.” No. Seriously, just briefly mention your crumb snatchers if you want, but no more than a line. Also, for Pete’s sake, do not put one picture of yourself on your profile then three of your kids. Again, you are advertising yourself, not your kids.
Give your body type and be honest about it. This rule applies to men also actually. If a site makes it an option to give your body type, do not leave it blank. If a site makes it a mandatory field, do not lie. Seems simple enough so far right?
Now, let us go deeper. By being honest I also mean include at least one body or semi body shot photo. No, not nude, perverts…get your mind out of the gutter. I just mean a picture to show off your body, or to the least your entire head. If you have a picture cropped so far in it just shows your face, most people are going to assume you are fat anyways, even if you are not. Also, trying to be tricky by taking a picture with the camera pointing down on you from above? Stop it. Either the person viewing your pictures will be wise to this, or if they meet you will be disappointed in your dishonesty. Then of course, you will be upset, and portray them as the villain in your head for their shallowness. Yet you are the same, go back to the first paragraph!!!
I know these dating site profiles can be hard to fill out. Your mind goes blank, you are just struggling to think of things to say, but relax, it is not a test. Take your time. Obviously if you are on a dating site, you have plenty of it. Make sure you write interests and hobbies that you not only want a man to know about, but that you want to talk about. Duh! You are not only writing tidbits about yourself, you are giving the guys possibly interested in you some conversation starters.
If you want a man to be interesting, do not get mad that he brought up a conversation about hockey, after you bragged on your page about what a big hockey fan you are. If you say you are big into your church, do not shrug off someone who asks you about church. Please note, I am not saying tell a complete stranger right off the bat what church you attend. You do have to be careful still. You get my point, or I at least hope you do.
I hope this has been helpful to you. Please feel free to discuss.
